And how was your july 4th?

So...how was your 4th? Mine was nice. We all went to my oldest boys (and his girlfriends) home. It was nice. Since mama wanted to have a cookout and so did my sons girlfriend we decided to combine the two and have them at their house. Worked out well that way anyway. Between the two of them they have five young children combined! Theres not much for them to do over here but at their house they have a slip-and-slid so they got to play and we got to socialize. Gave me a chance to try out my new little camcorder also! My collection of electronic toys seem to grow more each year. I had bought my hubby one when my oldest grand-daughter was born so he could film her growing up. Neat idea...dang shame he played with it a little and it went in the case where its lived its six years. After checking out youtube I got the 'video bug'! Though my husband can be a sweetheart he can also be stingy. Needless to say me using his camcorder was out of the question. So....I bought my own. Were not the typical couple (or are we?) you might say. Of course I've only been married and lived with two men so maybe I'm not one to know what a typical couple really is. :) I recon I just always thought that couples shared things. Seems senceless (sp?) to have to buy two of everything but I have gotten used to that. I was always used to a couple sharing most everything. Since my last marriage we were so poor we really didn't have any choice. Never bothered me though. I think the only thing I ever really wanted to be able to call solely my own was a car. But then we shared that too. Now...sharing isn't an option. I think he is un-comfortable sharing. I'm not sure why. Maybe in all his relationships they didn't share. I don't know. Sorta funny if you think about it. We each have our own things....we don't use each others. But we have our own vehicles...but we share that. We just jump into any vehicle we decide to drive at that particular time. I remember talking to friends at work about how most of them had their own checking accounts even though they were married and thinking.....thats nuts. But I got used to that too. After I no longer worked we decided to use one checking account. I did end up opening up another one though to use as a saving account that I could use when I needed to. When one person is working its really no use in having seperate checking accounts. I remember how it used to bother me so bad that he didn't want to combine things. I recon I got used to it. The modern relationship I think they call it. Modern or trustless? I find it sad actually that marriages don't feel like that 'one person' feel anymore but the 'two seperate people" but married. Really don't make sence does it? So...what makes a marriage feel any different then a room mate but with sleeping benefits? Not a whole lot different, other then one has a certificate and the other doesn't. Though I didn't grow up living with my parents I always thought of them having the perfect marriage. In reality nobody has the 'perfect' marriage, but I would have to say that they came mightly close. They were almost joined at the hip. If you seen one then you knew the other wasn't too far away. Just being around one and not the other had a weird feel. When my mother had neck surgery and couldn't ride in a car my dad picked me up for lunch. Just me and daddy. Without mama there he looked out of place. Most people today would say they couldn't stand being that tight but they were and loved it. Just watching them around each other you could see how much they enjoyed each others company. Yea....they had their fights like everybody else...but I never saw the big throw downs. Daddy just acted like he cherished the ground mama walked on. They would crack jokes at each other and nobody got bent out of shape. They were such a happy couple. Usually they were laughing about something. My dad always said that communication was a major part of a good marriage. My parents had a long happy marriage. I think most people wish for the same. Most everybody wants somebody that cherishs the ground they walk on. I look at the 'old fashioned' marriages like my parents, then I look at the 'modern' marriages of today and I find it sad. Somewhere along the line we were convinced that we each had to have our own lives but we could also be married too. I don't think anybody wants to have just their spouse in their lives and nobody else. Everybody needs friends and family to be with too. But when you have more going on without your spouse then you do with your spouse then your co-habitating with a marriage certficate. Seems everybody had gotten so selfish today. Its the me before you era. This is mine and that is yours. I'll see you when we meet in the bed. Where has the tightness gone? Since when do you agree to spend the rest of your life with a person but don't trust them to touch your electronics? Has your belonging become so valueable that they are now too important for you to let your life mate use them? Definitely something worth thinking about huh?